Skip to content

Every Meeting is Magical

Every Meeting is Magical

By Solo4114,
So, although I stepped away from the show, I did want to write one or two final things before we all pack up and head home, so to speak.  The following post is something I wrote this past summer before Season 9 started, I think.  It was something I’d been thinking about for a while.  I’m putting this out there without knowing how the show ends.  How it ends really doesn’t matter for purposes of the post, but I still think it’s something that’s kind of important and worth remembering.

If you’re reading this, you’re likely a fan of this show (particularly after so many seasons).  I’m guessing it’s likely thatyou’ve been captivated, at one point during the run of this show or another, by the idea of that magical moment where two people who will fall in love and spend their lives together first meet.  Certainly, the story of How I Met Your Mother seems to focus on this single moment.  But even outside of the show, I expect that you’ve probably, at one point or another, marveled at other stories of seemingly improbably magical meetings.  The couple who met on a dating site, fell in love, and were engaged nine months after meeting.  The couple who met at 19 in college and are still happy together decades later.  The couple who found each other through a Craig’s List missed connections posting.  Or perhaps the couple who orbited each other for nearly 10 years, only to wind up meeting in the rain at a train station, after the worst wedding ever.

In the case of the show, it’s a story that’s been built up for almost a decade.  We see the aftermath — a happy couple with two wonderful kids – right from the pilot episode.  We hear the love in the narrator’s voice for his wife and the mother of those kids from the start, and throughout the show.  And we’ve seen the seemingly endless parade of horrible dates and awful choices that the narrator made as a young man.  That kind of build-up can make the moment of the meeting seem — wait for it — legendary.  The stuff of legend.  Myth.  Fantasy.

Magic.

If you’re still single and reading this, maybe you’ve looked at that story and thought to yourself “How will it happen to me and when?  Where’s MY magic moment?”  Or maybe you’re someone who’s been with your spouse for many years, and are at a point where your own meeting seems depressingly mundane by comparison.  Where were the swells of indie rock at that bar (I think it was an Irish one?) where you met?  Or maybe you’ve just met someone and, as well as things seem to be going, you can’t shake that feeling that this may not be “The One” because, well, how could it be?  The way you met was just kinda humdrum, and isn’t the moment you meet supposed to be this incredible thing?

The truth is, every single moment where any couple meets is magical — if the couple is one that spends their lives together and loves each other.  No matter how mundane that meeting may have been, it’s ALWAYS magical.  You’re dubious.  I’ll explain.

Yes, it’s true that there are these stories that friends or friends of friends have about how, by some incredible coincidence or improbable series of events, they met.  The Craig’s List Missed Connections thing, for example.  True story.  Happened to two very good friends of mine.  Or the story of how your grandparents met at age 15, and never wanted to be with anyone else again.  That was my grandparents, by the way.  Maybe you’ve cracked the New York Times Sunday paper and looked at the stories of how people met each other while painting a mutual friend’s house, or how they both showed up at a Halloween party wearing perfectly matched costumes (it was 1995…he was Judge Ito, and she was Marcia Clarke…) and hit it off.  All of these stories make it sound like these meetings were OMG!!!  DESTINY!!!!!!!  And that’s a tough act to follow.

But the truth is that any of those moments could’ve gone very differently.  Judge Ito and Marcia Clarke might’ve met, had a laugh, and never spoken again.  My grandparents could’ve met, dated a while, and then said “Meh” and moved on (which would mean you’d never be reading this post!  I know!  Horrors, right?!).  The Craigs List couple might’ve found each other, gone out, and realized “Wait…we have nothing in common.”  And while, yes, it’s amazing that it didn’t….it’s important to think of all the times IT DID go that way.  Now, I grant you, my grandparents at 15…yeah, they probably didn’t have too many other experiences of it going poorly.  But people like that aside, chances are EVERY couple – yes, even the ones with the super-magical stories – and EVERY single person out there reading this has had a moment like this…that went nowhere.  One example from my own past was walking home from an event along a slightly different path, when I looked good , running into some friends of mine at a local restaurant, and them inviting me to join them as they waited fora woman they’d wanted to introduce me to for years to arrive, which led to the lot of us staying out until 1am drinking and having a fine time.  Sounds like destiny, right?  Except the woman and I didn’t really hit it off like my friends expected, and it never went anywhere.  Instead of being “How I Met Your Mother,” the story was “How I Met Some Random Girl Out One Night Whom I Never Saw Again.”  All of a sudden, that magical story?  Not so magical anymore.

Moreover, for every obviously “magical” story, there are plenty of humdrum, dull stories about how wonderful couples met.  In the grocery store checkout lane.  Reaching for the same everything bagel at the deli.  One hit the other with a bike.  The friends-of-friends set up on a date that ended with them having to pull over so she could pee on the side of the road in the middle of a snowstorm.  These moments are all mundane…except for the fact that they all – ALL of them – resulted in a couple meeting.  And ultimately, it’s the fact that these two people met at all, regardless of the “how” that’s the true miracle or act of destiny or the Universe or God or whatever you want to call it.

That’s the magic: the fact that out of every person on the planet…these two people found each other.  And that magic doesn’t even really begin until after that moment where you first exchange names or shake hands or whathaveyou.  The “How” is unimportant in that respect.  It doesn’t matter if you have a “magical” story like Ted, where you each orbited each other for a decade and finally met when the Universe deemed it appropriate for you to meet.  It doesn’t matter if you just…met at a bar.  You met.  That’s what counts.  You both beat the odds to find each other, and it worked .

EVERY meeting is magical…when it works.

In a sense, that means that any meeting, any person you run into on any given day might be that person with whom you just click.  It doesn’t matter how it happens, as long as it happens.  The girl in front of you who gets the last everything bagel.  The guy who almost ran into you on his bike.  The friend-of-a-friend who was introduced to you at a party.  The friend of that friend who tagged along for the hell of it that you liked better than the fix-up.  It could be anyone.  Anywhere.  Any time.  And if it already happened for you, but maybe this show has you wondering if yours is as amazing a story as you’d like, take heart.  It is amazing simply because it did happen when the odds were so very much against it.  Make no mistake: it’s a miracle, every single time.  Every.  Single.  Time.

6 Comments (Add Yours)

  1. Thank you Solo for sticking around and sharing part of your story. If you all only knew all the side by side stories from solo and Ted you would wonder if there really are hidden cameras all over his town watching his every move. That would make for an interesting tv show!!

  2. Hey Solo. Good to hear from you. I think this is an important point to make. I have the meeting built up so much in my mind that I need to step back and remember, they needed A moment to connect, and this story provides the variables this meeting. And we know the meeting works out, so I think I will be happy in the end. I’m sure there will be things I’m on the fence about or even some things I dislike about the episode, but I think they’ll be able to give a good number of the fans satisfaction.

    I spoke with someone this week about my frustration with online dating, and they said, you only need one person to say yes, if it turns out to be the right person. After telling them I didn’t think there was only one person in the world for me and they clarified, I think it is true. I worry about impressing people all the time, whether it is professionally or to just be liked, but that can put a barrier up between the real me and the people around me. And over the years that barrier has become pretty thick. but I’m working on it.

    So I decided to go back and watch some episodes before the finale. I didn’t have an agenda in mind, and sort of just looked at the episode titles until something jumped out that I wanted to see. Considering I did a rewatch of the series before season 9 started, I jumped over a lot of stuff.

    I’ve watched or are in the process of watching:
    The Pilot
    The Pineapple Incident
    Girls vs. Suits
    Symphony of Illumination
    No Pressure
    Trilogy Time
    The Time Travelers
    And I’m hoping to get through all of season 9.

    Some random thoughts on a fresh watch of some of the season 9 episodes:
    The Locket – Robin mentions from a phone call the flower girls look adorable, so I’m not sure why Barney has a flower gorilla.

    No Questions Asked – Robin says the gun enthusiasts in her family are going to do a 21 gun salute. But they are Canadian, and a 21 gun salute, from what I’ve been told, is adding up the individual digits of 1776 (1+7+7+6) so assuming this is the reasoning behind it, it is a United States thing to do.

    Lighthouse – Lily comes to brunch and says “Yes this drink has booze in it” and that it isn’t her first of the day. We now know she hasn’t been drinking, so I’m not sure why an active lie is needed there when all it could do is raise questions from the gang.

    Dads – We see Lily tackle Zabka, but I still expect more from this joke in the end. Not because I need it, but why tease it like that if it isn’t going to get used.

    Rehearsal Dinner – in a flash back Ted makes another crack about no one ever gets bands for weddings. I’m curious what changed his mind from the pilot to think DJs are the way to go.

    I am already in anticipation of Monday night (and the Tuesday night viewing party friends are having since we are busy on Monday nights).

    • Ted wanting a DJ had nothing to do with him actually WANTING A DJ. He was comparing bands to Barney (they lie, deceive, sleep with all the girls, have nice suits and well rehearsed moves, but they let you down…), back when he was jealous that Barney was marrying Robin in stead of him. He practically said that. I think in reality he likes bands, though. lol

  3. I don’t think the writers set out with Lily being pregnant in mind. Beside all the drinking nonsense, why would a pregnant woman tackle anyone (multiple times at that), exert herself beating up a dummy (pillow Marshall), ice skate, and entertain going to a foreign country when her Dr., hospital, and support system are all in her hometown?? Speaking of which, common sense would dictate Marshall taking the Judgeship, a serious leap in his career that has far reaching results for the family. They can go to Rome anytime. I understand its her dream but at this point two children are involved. The whole thing makes Lily look very selfish and I’m sad that will be my last thoughts on the Erickson family. I hated this storyline and it dragged on way too long. Remembering the reacher and the settler debate, I’m going with Marshall as the settler!!

  4. I’d like to add that every meeting is magical even if it doesn’t end up in happily ever after. If you spend 10 years with the same person and then break apart, it doesn’t mean your relationship was less, just that it was different.

  5. Thank you so much for this! ‘Twas very inspirational! Its true. It doesn’t matter “how” two people meet. You don’t need some “Awwww” story like in our favorite fictional tales of how our OTP met (and in some rare instances of how real people met). If you’re happy together, then its a wonderful thing that you met, no matter how dull the story sounds!~

  • The Mother